Murphy wrote:AskDrFeeder wrote:
Ask her about her sexual fantasies. You may have to prod her a little to get her to tell you.
After she tells you, do your utmost to help her realize or at least act out those fantasies.
Eventually the conversation will come around to a discussion of YOUR fantasies.
Tell her.
This is coercive, though, and will make her feel guilty if you indulge her fantasies for the sole purpose of putting her in a position where she'd be uncomfortable saying no to indulging your fantasies.
Especially when your fantasies involve what seems to be one of her biggest self-image issues.
I agree it
could be coercive. Thanks for pointing that out.
However I don't think it's necessarily coercive. She can still say "no". If the guy lays guilt trips on her for not reciprocating then he's a jerk. But if he's that big a jerk it will come out sooner or later regardless of what advice I give.
I was mainly trying to figure out how to create an atmosphere where he'd feel comfortable talking about it.
Incidentally, I have given this advice before and in one case it worked out fine.